As my daughter is growing into an amazing young adult she faces daily challenges that she must make decisions about. I am so grateful to have a positive relationship with her, and am thankful she still ask for and respects my opinions on many of those issues.
“Don’t be perfect, be Amazing” is how I want both of my children to face the world. As a young woman, my daughter will face so many expectations and preconceived attitudes from all directions, and I want her to know it’s ok to stay true to herself. I want her to retain her faith in her own convictions, and keep her spirit regardless of any adversities she may encounter. The world can be tough, and oh so judgmental, but I want her to be confident in her own decisions and choices, and know that standing out from the crowd is not a bad thing.
That is just as important for my son. Our children face so many more issues and consequences than we did at the same age. It can be hard to go against the crowd, but ultimately it’s what gives us our character.
Without question, becoming a Mother was the most significant milestone in my life. In a heart beat, all of my priorities shifted to that baby being the centre of my whole world. From that moment to now, all decisions have been made with my children as the most important element.
Being a Mother has taught me to love unconditionally. While kids always bring varying degrees of behaviour, at the end of the day, they feed my soul, and make me a better person. As much as I might try to teach them, they teach me more.
My greatest challenge as a Mother is to make sure my kids greet the world as themselves. I never want them to feel they have to conform to anybody else's expectations. I want them to know they can be or do anything they want, and support them in whatever that direction may be.
I make sure they know they can always talk to their Dad and I about anything. No problem is too big or too difficult to share. Whatever an issue might be, we will always help them work out the best solution, and support them with whatever decision they make.
One of the things you don’t know til your a Mum is how funny your kids are! So many ups and downs along the way, and whatever is going on, someone in our family will always find something to laugh about. Not always appropriate, but everyone usually joins in eventually!The best part of being a Mum is how much I enjoy my kids company. I am loving the people they are becoming, and I love spending time with them.
Two mantra’s I live by:
It is what it is - you can only control so much. At the end of the day, you have to make the best choice you can under the circumstances. And then let it go.
How hard can it be?? - Sometimes, really hard!! But it means I give things a go that might have been easier to walk away from. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. But whatever the result, I always learn from the experience.
I am so lucky to work in a job I love, and without my family supporting me, that simply would not be possible. They support me as much as I support them. I want them to pursue their own passions, and see that working towards a goal pays off. Above all, I want them to have options, and show them the world is at their feet, and that they can be all that they choose.
My daughter recently commented to me that she hopes that one day she is as good a Mum as I am - without doubt, the greatest compliment I could ever receive.