We’ve all had at least one dark moment! That moment... when our mind becomes a prisoner, when we are overwhelmed, our heart might cry, but often we have no time for tears. It could be the result of a sick child; a terminal illness; the loss of a job; the death of a spouse, parent, or friend; separation or divorce; or as simple as, a significant change in our lives.
It’s how we cope with those dark moments, that makes a difference. When things get too much for our Luminary, Diana Mislov, she goes outside, reflects and feel comfort that we are just small specks, in the galaxy. It puts things into perspective, and creates space for opportunity to flourish.
I’ve had a great many losses in my life, and each of these losses has been a chance for me, to have a huge reality check. I fully realise the vulnerability of life. We are the youngest we are going to be, right NOW, and need to own each moment! Living on purpose, seizing each opportunity, and having no regrets!
My dark moments include the loss of my fiancé when I was 20. He was a fisherman, working out of Portland Vic, and his boat capsized at sea. I threw myself into my work and learnt who my true friends were during this difficult time.
I was grateful for the opportunity to travel through Europe for three months, and upon returning to Australia met and married my first husband. It was a difficult couple of years, with many dark moments, fuelled with his drug taking and violence.
My only child, my daughter Johana, is the shining light in my life. Her birth gave me the courage to leave that abusive marriage. Bringing her up with fierce determination, that she would always have choices and be empowered by strong independence, forced me to become the example, I so wanted to show her. Her courage and many wonderful attributes make me so proud of the young woman she has become. It also makes me proud of myself, to have the strength and resilience to keep going and better myself, every day.
‘Only in darkness, can you see stars’ reflects that hope and resilience.
In 2008 my father died after battling Melanoma, and I left the career I had forged for myself, as a Senior Accountant and equity holder in a leading practice. I decided to ‘unchain’ myself from my desk, and work for myself. This was an equally hard journey, with more challenges than I expected.
During this time, my second husband became terminally ill, and we learnt he needed an organ transplant to survive. It was a very difficult road for him, but I was given the most precious gift of all.... to hold his hand, as he left this world. The trust, peace and redemption were so very sad, but liberating. I have chosen to take that very special gift, and talk about organ donation, whenever I can!
When I escorted Johana, down the aisle, to marry her husband,
I had tears in my eyes.
It has left me in an empty nest (another potential dark moment), but I have made new friends; found purpose in more voluntary roles in my community, including serving on our local city council; and it has given me opportunities to travel, and enjoy experiences I never dreamt possible!
Sometimes I think I have lived many lives, the ‘chapters’ in it are all so different, and I look back and wonder how I could have changed so much. But, that is what life, and resilience is... a reinvention at every turn or obstacle! Let your mind be open to change and opportunity too. And remember, in darkness to look for the stars.